heroines of my dreams

Although it’s important to applaud educators for taking a closer look at rape prevention, it’s possible the dwindling and hard to measure returns will continue as long as they solely focus on risk management, to the detriment of everything else. One of the reasons I enjoyed the Yes Means Yes! anthology and blog (full disclosure: I’m one of the contributors) is this idea of enthusiastic consent. So often, questions of consent hinge upon hearing “no” as in “she never said no” or “I didn’t hear her say stop.” Yes Means Yes reframes that idea, positioning that the absence of no should not be taken as consent, and that only a full, enthusiastic yes leads to a positive sexual experience for both partners.